To ask other readers questions about 7 Paths to Lasting Happiness , please sign up. Be the first to ask a question about 7 Paths to Lasting Happiness. Lists with This Book. This book is not yet featured on Listopia. Community Reviews. Showing Rating details. Sort order. Jun 29, M. Evans rated it it was amazing. This was a fun and refreshing book even for a happy person like me! There is always something new to learn and ideas to motivate us even if we are on the path to happiness already. You will love it. Dec 28, Heather rated it it was amazing Shelves: self-help.
I was given this book, as a parting gift, by the author, after spending a lovely weekend at his home with his wife and youngest son. I read the first few chapters and the one on relationships when I was feeling particularly happy, but then I started at the beginning when life wasn't as "perfect" and found more insight into how to establish and maintain happiness, that I had over looked.
The first thing that really struck me, on my second reading, was that much of our natural disposition for happin I was given this book, as a parting gift, by the author, after spending a lovely weekend at his home with his wife and youngest son. The first thing that really struck me, on my second reading, was that much of our natural disposition for happiness is based on our genetic makeup!
This does't mean that if we aren't prone to happiness because of our DNA that we won't be happy, it just means that we might have to work at it harder than some. This makes sense to me. It's much like the genetic makeup we have giving us a tendency toward a thin body or one that has a hard time keeping weight off.
One can have a "healthy" look with the right amount of nutrition and exercise, but for some it's easier than others. The same is also true with lasting happiness.
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For some it is easier to wake up happy and for others it takes more work. This book gives 7 areas to work on to maintain a healthy disposition for happiness much like a healthy body would need consistent work in several areas like nutrition, cardio vascular, muscle tone in upper body, core and lower body, rest, hydration, etc. This book is well worth a second and even a third look. It's a good one to keep on your nightstand! There are no discussion topics on this book yet. Self Help. About Elia Gourgouris.
Elia Gourgouris. Hers was that their child was kidnapped and they had to buy him back, they paid the money and then had to pick him out from a literal truck load of kids that had been taken. That it may be JB, try putting on a happy perspective if you lose your physical health, mental health, career, career aspirations, financial security for life , future prospects, house and finally marriage; because my spouse has lost all of above too. How did this happen you might ask. Service to the country over two wars. And nothing prepares you for loss of above ie: everything your life once was or a life on the pension and all that it brings.
We are too young to retire yet we must because we're buggered I'd like to see you choose to dig yourself out of that hole by way of a great perspective. My point is, some people are dealt a lousy hand in life, and a perky perspective isn't going to help everyone. Comparing children in Lima to above, is like comparing apples and oranges. But with some effort and a postive outlook my nervous system learned to retask the remaining nerves to operate my arm again. I almost died from cholera while in Peru when the health care system had such down, so it was a bit of luck that I survived.
So I appreciate the importance of ones health. Most folks suffer from mental health issues at some point in their lives, fortuantely it is all in your head. So I appreciate the importance of ones mental health.
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I've been homeless, broke, starving, on the wrong side of planet Earth in a foreign nation with no resources nor support I realised that you don't need anything to be happy. I don't seek to demean you in any way and I sympathise with what you have said. Perhaps I was fortunate to have my epiphany when I hit rock bottom, when I had nothing.
After that everything has a silver lining A positive outlook can do amazing things. Kind regards and I hope you can find that hidden ace in your deck of cards. When you ain't got nothing, you got nothing to lose. Or Solzhenitsyn - the greatest freedom comes when you have nothing left. I can't say whether that freedom brings happiness because I've never been there, but I do know that more things don't mean more happiness. Well DT, keep on believing that tripe if you want to People, and their ideas, are infinitely malleable because humans are organic, topsy entities like pot plants rather than rational, mechanical automatons.
We go along with the second model because it holds out the promise that we are not alone and that we can control aspects of our destiny. The human mind is a sausage machine that produces what we hope are useable life answers. But it can't hope to capture all of life and make us safe from our multiple fears because we are still just pot plants. That's why religion is a persistent human phenomenon that cannot be reasoned out of existence no matter how much the atheists insist.
Maslow's hierarchy of needs is the real driver of religious behavior. If you want to know what we are, walk up to a person and stand 3 inches from their face. In most cases they will "drop their bundle. The effect is even more pronounced if the confronter is a Bengal tiger or a mobile Mack truck. Philosophy is over-rated. Just stay away from negative people. When I was in my teens my outstanding history teacher made a comment on the bit in the USA constitution: the right to pursue happiness.
The comment was that, if we are pursuing happiness we probably won't find it. It is a sufficient profound comment to have influenced me for the following 60 years. This, in no way, diminishes the value of the points made in this article. I think they are very good. But I have come to believe that it is people who are focused on making others happy that usually have the most satisfying lives.
Even this is no guarantee of continual happiness either, and nor should it be. Sorrow and grief are part of life. Only a person without love or beauty is safe from these. And the contrasts they offer make the happy times all the more joyful. I am experiencing this right now: after several years of sever hearing loss I have received a most successful cochlea implant.
I have never enjoyed conversation more and even traffic noise sounds beautiful. And as for appreciating that I still have good vision, loosing sound made every beautiful sight more lovely. Must be a slow day for articles to publish this nothingness. Although it is a blatant promo for the authors blog and books. How does that fit with the ABC's charter? Is it ok to bend the rules for employees. I absolutely agree, dr dig. The article is not about the evil practices of unions or Bronwyn Bishop being no worse than Peter Slipper or the noble Premier of NSW being prepared to sacrifice his political career to do right by the PM.
It is thus clearly BAD and should be removed forthwith, possibly with a new branch of the PM's Office set up to decide what will be published on The Drum. Would that fix it for you? So I take it you find this an interesting and persuasive piece of opinion and or analysis. I don't. I find it to be a fluff piece promoting the authors personal blog and books. Happiness could be an interesting topic to analyse and opine about, but you can't find any analysis here. It is replete with unsupported generalisations.
I found the article quite useful and concise. I can only assume that you didn't, but would probably gain a lot if you did. We are all hamsters on the wheel, the hamster might have died, but the wheel keeps turning thats the reality. If everyone else wears red, and you feel like wearing blue, wear blue.
Do not benchmark your life against others, be true to yourself, you will find happiness. This a worthwhile reminder to us. I have had some experience of people who want it all and want it now and had to adopt much of what Sophie says to maintain my own equilibrium in the face of it. I am glad I did. Losimpson, the trouble with having it all is, that you continually worry about losing it. Moderation in all things, is a motto from ancient times. Greed is good is a motto which seems to guide this age.
Those who follow it are at war with any recalcitrant citizens who would wish to be happy by making do with less. The economic treadmill which demands endless unsustainable growth and pollutes our world with more and more worthless material things that do not give satisfaction demands a sacrifice of the wellbeing of those citizens who wish to opt out of the world of greed, but are denied this choice through social pressure from the ruling class and their goons in the advertising industry, and the political class which serves them rather than the populace.
Less is more we cry, but greed is good will win as long as the greedy continue to control society through the usurpation of the means of production and communication. What makes you happy? A new car? A new dress? A new house? Or more new houses? Lots of money? Lots of friends? I met a young boy who has Down Syndrome a while back.
He always hang around the car park under our block of flats, doing nothing in particular. He always wait for passing persons and greet them. Some not so friendly, or perhaps too busy folks ignored him. I always stopped and asked him how he is going. His face lit up with a wall-to-wall smile. Yes, I can't look inside his brain and find out what makes him so happy. But he really is happy, judging by what I saw. I doubt very much that he faked it either. My point? I believe we think too much. Because we are able to think, and probably thinking way too much, and possibly too deep, we went over the top and begin to manufacture scenarios that may not happen.
Of course, the all too easily available stimulants like alcohol and drugs can also contribute to our hyper-active imagination. I believe the best way to be happy is, surprisingly, to make others happy. For a start, be pleasant to others. Start with your telephone manners. A simply "Good morning, how are you? Greet strangers with a simple "Hello, how re you? If you have some loose change lying around to spare, give it to some worthwhile charities. Finally, don't for one minute believe that you are perfect.
Such pursue of perfection will only make you miserable because, unfortunately, no one is perfect! You are allowed to be sad because without knowing sadness, you never know what happiness is! Good advice. It doesn't take much to be pleasant to others and the reward is good.
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Some people just aren't nice but that is their problem, not yours. GrumpiSkeptic, I like your points. Also, some joker once suggested we should all be nice to each other for a change. I think he was onto something. It is amazing what a simple "hello" and a smile to another person can do for your own outlook on life. Walking my dog on a leash past a pleasant garden, I complimented the owner who was watering it. His reply: "Just keep that bloody dog out of it. They all get in here and make messes on my lawn! Perhaps the most damaging of the human experience is loneliness.
Even in a world where we are surrounded by people, communications, media and for the lucky ones close family there can be personal loneliness particularly in later years of life when people find themselves living alone. There is nothing selfish about feelings of loneliness no matter what your life has previously been like. Remaining as outgoing and caring as you can and reaching out to others can ease the pain of being alone.
It seems to me that the best advice for women in particular as they move through life would be to nourish and treasure their friendships with other women. Unless women who lose their life partner are fortunate enough to meet and connect with a man with whom they may have a close personal relationship as they age, their best insurance against loneliness is close female friendships. The fact that generally, men tradionally prefer partners who are younger than they are and the fact that women tend to live longer than men means there are many women who will face many years alone in their old age.
In my personal circle of friends there are least a dozen women in my age group being late 60's who have been widowed in the last five years or so.
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I can only speak from the female perspective and appreciate that men also suffer from loneliness perhaps individually more so as men do not always express their feelings as freely as women. I'm afraid your advice is a little dated, RG.
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By the time young women of today reach 'man drought' age where they must suffer loneliness thanks to the inconsiderate early passing of their male peers they will have thousands of fake friends on social media with whom to share pictures of their meals and passive-aggressively compete for the most likes on their latest check-in or duckface selfie. Unfortunately, they're just unlikely to have husbands as female entitlement has made heterosexual marriage a no-win scenario for modern men who increasingly don't see the point of signing their lives away in a totally one-sided contract.
As an alternative to the usual bemoaning of their victimhood, women could take a proactive stance and fight to improve life expectancy for men, even if just to repay the billions of dollars that men have selflessly raised for women's causes over the years. Thanks to mum, my ex-wife, sister and many other women I've known. It amazes me how negative many Australians are. Compared to the majority of people on the planet we all can live a pretty reasonable life. People whinge about everything. I ditched all that years ago, look for the good moments in every day and don't associate with the whingers except as necessary.
My brother nasty cancer demonstrated so clearly that enjoyment of life is what you think.
Thanks for the refreshing break from the constant barrage of negative political articles on The Drum. It would be nice if there were more articles focussing on things like this. Life isn't that simple and if it were you would be doing it already. Crap article, I have read more convincing things from the new age movement. I remain unconvinced that we should be seeking happiness. If the world is a charnel house of hatred, then my primary objective would be to see the world for what it is - and this would not make me happy. For me, the pursuit of truth, come what may, is far more important than chasing happiness.
In addition, I have problems with the idea that happiness is some kind of Platonic universal, hanging in space, which we can all dip into. As I see it, the sources of happiness are many and varied, and so in this sense there are many happinesses, and many of them are far from desirable. I suspect that a sadist might find happiness by being cruel to others, a dictator might find happiness by keeping people in chains, and so on.
Regardless, I do agree that the subject of happiness is worth a Drum piece. As one ancient Chinese sage said, one of the paths to happiness is for people to learn to mind their own buisness. Nice idea. But, as a long term sufferer of depression, where interventions and medication have proved fruitless, where am I to turn?
Every day is reminder of my failed journey. Nothing more, nothing less. It is not an excuse. I don't want to be this way. I just don't seem to have an option. My real fear is for my kids, as it is a family trait. Oxo, I often think that misdiagnoses of depression are made when actually the person is suffering from demoralisation. They are very different. Depression is treatable, but in many cases extreme demoralisation is not. That's as big and important thing to give anyone life. To feel valued and worthwhile is a deeper, more meaningful state than happiness. Best wishes to you.
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